The First Look ♡
It’s a wonderful thing, getting married in the modern era. No longer do couples feel tied-down to upholding old traditions that don’t fit their personalities. You don’t need four walls and the roof of a chapel to feel like you’re getting married in the right space. Just axe the garter and bouquet toss axed altogether if that’s just not your style! Just remove all expectations and old traditions if that is your jam. Hey, after all this is your day and you can have as much or little tradition as you would like. We are in the year 2020! Hard to believe, right?
Through all the modern changes, there is one tradition that couples hold onto. You know the one. The music cues, the crowd turns, and the beautiful bride or handsome groom steps up to the aisle. Everyone gasps, possibly in tears, as they see their partner for the first time. It’s a goosebumps moment….like literal chills. A moment that we dream of for most of our lives.
More couples are choosing to skip the dramatic impression that an aisle entrance brings. Instead, they are choosing an intimate first look prior to ceremony.
A First Look
A first look is when a couple privately meets before the wedding ceremony. If you just leave it at that, it doesn’t sound that exciting. But, there are several reasons why a first look is a great option and growing in popularity! Continue reading to see why we love them!
Kayleigh Creighton Photography
Why do we love First Looks?
Well, for starters, they ease some of the emotions and pressure of a really big day. Over 80% of our couples choose to do a first look. Brides often feel the pressures of their big day melt away once they see their fiancé. Beyond that, first looks wind up giving couples MORE. More portrait-style photos (usually in better lighting). With more time to spend with their family and friends at the reception. It is never in our interest to pressure a couple into doing a first look.
However, there are some key elements we would like to share!
It is the ONE Time You’ll Be Alone Together on Your Wedding Day
Isn’t that crazy to think about?? It’s your wedding day of all days. Without a first look, the two of you won’t be together alone until it’s all over. Couples deserve to share a private moment to themselves. Especially on the day of their “I Do’s” without 100+ pairs of eyes on them.
Despite popular belief, a first look does not remove the specialness of the moment a couple first sees one another. It’s actually quite the opposite. It’s incredibly special because it’s such an intimate moment that you can focus on one another instead of everything else going on around you. You get to look closely at the face of your beloved the moment they see you. You’ll be close enough to reach out and hold their hand, wrap them in your arms, and shed a few tears. Things you really can’t do without breaking protocol during a wedding ceremony!
While so many of us focus on the bride’s feelings, it’s important not to underestimate how much a first look can help the groom. Most grooms tend to be more relaxed and emotionally responsive once that pressure has been removed. A man who won’t let himself cry in front of a room full of people is often more forthcoming with his tears alone in front of his forever person. Taking away that pressure before the ceremony even starts allows couples to fully enjoy every moment after so much more. Removing nerves goes a long way. Remembering the moment instead of getting tunnel vision and “waking up” when it’s all said and done.
Tears Will Come Either Way… Or They Won’t
Not everybody is a crier, plain and simple. Fewer people will cry when they are being watched by a crowd of people. Yet so many brides want to see their first appearance in front of their fiancé on their wedding day trigger an emotional response. Well, …it doesn’t always happen that way.
As we already mentioned, a first look can be really helpful in breaking down some walls of nervousness or emotional uptightness. Having a first look without all the expectation and staring eyes, both of you can feel freer to let it all out (with time to repair your makeup before you walk down the aisle!). AND a first look actually gives you two opportunities to get a tender, teary reaction if you think just one during the ceremony might not do the trick.
Katherine Brackman Photography
You Are Able to Capture More Portraits of the Two of You
Let’s be real: your wedding photographer is one of your pricier vendors and the one that will give you back precious memories of your special day. A first look will give you more time and opportunity to take photos of the two of you. Oftentimes, a first look happens in a dedicated space away from the ceremony site to give you privacy. This allows you some freedom to choose a beautiful location for portrait style photos and to fit in more poses than you might otherwise get after the ceremony. Couples who do first looks can receive up to 40% more photos of the two of them!
Another bonus: better lighting. Many couples choose to have an evening ceremony for a more formal vibe. This allows them to let their hair down and party at the reception!. Trying to get all the pictures of the wedding party, plus private photos of the newlyweds can be incredibly challenging to fit in while the sun is up. A first look eliminates those issues and gives you more time to share with your wedding party for photos, and then more time with your guests at the reception.
Bharat Parmar Photography
You Can Enjoy Your Cocktail Hour
No explanation necessary here! The cocktail hour, and all those delicious hors d’oeuvres you tasted during all that wedding planning, are what couples miss out on when trying to fit in tons of photos after the ceremony. If you’ve done a first look, you can get all the combinations of photos with your wedding party (trust me, there are a LOT!), plus a few more of the two of you, and still make it in time for cocktail hour! But don’t worry, at The Commons, we make sure you are enjoying hors d’ oeuvres and drinks ALL cocktail hour, no matter if you are taking formal photos or hanging in the VIP Suite.
Siousca Photography
First Looks Don’t Just Have to be Between the Bride or Groom
Still not sure you want to do a first look with your fiancé? Why not do one with your mom or dad instead!
Or maybe your influence came from a grandfather or other family member. Even capturing the moments of waiting shared between the groom and his father can be quite humorous at times. Men often prepare for the day quite different from us ladies! It can be anything from an impromptu pre-wedding wrestling match or sharing a classic drink with one another. The choice is yours!
Some couples even love to have a first look with their pets! True story: a bride and groom who had decided to do a first look themselves also wanted to have a little one-on-one time with their dogs before they were thrust into the ceremony. They were worried about how their pups may respond walking down the aisle surrounded by a bunch of people, especially if they hadn’t seen their mom and dad all day.
Instead, they had a dog sitter bring the dogs to their wedding site for them to love on and take pictures without subjecting them to the potentially hectic environment of the wedding. They had collars of greenery for the dogs to wear, snuggled with them for a few minutes, and let the dog sitter take them home when it was time to head back to the chapel.
Freebird Photography
Split the Difference: First Look, No Peeking!
If you feel strongly about waiting to see your fiancé until you take the aisle, but you like how a first look can calm nerves, consider the “first look, no peeking” option. I have had couples hold hands around the corner of a building or a doorway so they can connect without laying eyes on one another.
Usually, couples will say a prayer together, talk about how they’re feeling, or exchange letters or gifts. Idea: the groom is blindfolded to be extra sure the bride’s big reveal isn’t spoiled!
Josh London - First Class Weddings
No matter what you may prefer, rest assured that the decision is yours and yours alone! We would never pressure our couples to make one decision over another, and we encourage all brides and grooms to not let the opinions of family or friends sway them, either. This is a personal choice, and a very defining one for how you experience a major moment on your wedding day. Whatever you decide, we will help create the best possible moment for your first meeting and capture it beautifully for you to cherish it all of your lives.